Internet Assvice

 

Internet Assvice is the advice you get from people on the internet. And I need a taste.

As I've mentioned time and time again, I'm already planning our huge Halloween bash. Last year, almost 65 people came and it was a great time. The only downfall was the cost - in total, the party cost me about $3,000. I ended up spending almost $1,000 just on liquor, and that didn't even include the bartender!

So, this year, I was thinking of maybe doing something to offset the cost. I would like the Internet's opinion - how would you rank the following options from appropriate to inappropriate?

1. Free beer and soda and $2.00/drink cash bar for all mixed drinks and liquor.
2. Raffle tickets to win cool prize for $1.00 each.
3. Tickets to come to the party are $5 per person.
4. Giant skull at entrance for donations.
5. None of the above - any type of request for money is tacky.

My personal opinion is closest to #5, so don't worry about hurting my feelings if you think that's the most appropriate response. I'm hosting a party for guests, and while I want it to feel like a venue, not like it's at someone's house, the idea of asking for any money at all skeeves me out a bit. But if the costs were as high as $5,000, that's a lot even for me to spend on a party. So I'm torn.

Help me!

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  1.  

    I think both #1, #2 & #4 would be totally "non-tacky"... I wouldn't want to buy a ticket to your party, because then I would think any asshole could buy one and show up... or, is that how it is?

    Comments by Tori

    comment by Tori Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:04 am

     

  2.  

    I like #3 the best. I mean, #1 is reasonable too but then who wants to collect money for drinks all night?

    Comments by Hilly

    comment by Hilly Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:05 am

     

  3.  

    At first I'm inclined to say #5. I think #1 is also okay, liquor is pricey. Personally, I almost never buy raffle tickets, but that could just be me.

    Comments by Amanda

    comment by Amanda Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:05 am

     

  4.  

    #1, 2 and 4. IMO.

    But free drinks for whomever does this: boobs2

    Comments by Stephanie

    comment by Stephanie Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:06 am

     

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    I say cash bar and charge $5/person. Not tacky, in my opinion. As long as you're still letting me in for free.

    Comments by Karl

    comment by Karl Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:10 am

     

  6.  

    As I help a friend do a huge Derby party each year I know about this. It's skeevy to hae acash bar at your house unless it's some sort of political fundraiser thing . And that's still skeevy.

    I used to do a huge New Year's Eve bash–two bartenders etc.... so I know

    I'll email

    This is probably easily sorted by recruiting some folks who want to contribute.

    Comments by Turnbaby

    comment by Turnbaby Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:14 am

     

  7.  

    I think people should bring their own alcohol- or have to pay for drinks.
    And maybe #4.
    Probably not charging cover (#3)...a bit too tacky...

    Comments by Princess of the Universe

    comment by Princess of the Universe Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:19 am

     

  8.  

    I say #3. Although, is $5/person really enough? I don't vote for only #1 if you choose that one because... what are Poppy's favorite party beverages? Beer and soda! (And tequila.) You just wouldn't get your money back from me if you did #1.

    And, actually, I hate having to pay every time I get a beverage, so I'd really prefer a cover charge and donation spot.

    I say do #3 and #4.

    Comments by Poppy

    comment by Poppy Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:21 am

     

  9.  

    Just about any family and/or friend party that we throw/attend have the following rules:

    1. Bring a bottle or three or a case of beer.
    2. Bring something to eat as well.

    I know that doesn't work well with some parties, but you would be surprised how many people would be willing to buck up. Our Memorial Day party lasted two days because of all the stuff people brought. And the hosts only spent a couple of hundred bucks. Everyone was happy.

    But if you insist on picking from your choices, I would have no problem with either #3 or #4. Paying for cocktails at a party or feeling guilted into buying raffle tickets doesn't feel right.

    But like I said, I would prefer to help pay for the party goods myself by bringing supplies. That's how I roll.

    Comments by B.E. Earl

    comment by B.E. Earl Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:21 am

     

  10.  

    I think Option #4 is the best way to go. People tend to be more generous when they're left on their own to just give what they feel best. I mean, why put limits on it? And put people in the position of not giving more because "he only wants this much."

    But that's just my opinion!

    Good luck. And I understand your feelings on the matter (about being skeeved out), but since when did Avitable start growing little, baby, Avitable Money Trees in his backyard? You shouldn't be expected to pay for everything like that when it's a huge party and the cost is so steep, you know?

    I'm sure it will be amazing no matter what! :)

    Comments by Amber

    comment by Amber Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:22 am

     

  11.  

    Oh, and I've been growing my hair and my beard since December for the sole purpose of attending Halloween parties in October as The Dude from "The Big Lebowski".

    Just sayin'...ya know. In case I'm in the area. ;)

    Comments by B.E. Earl

    comment by B.E. Earl Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:24 am

     

  12.  

    Yeah, I would do the Required-To-Bring-A-Bottle-And-Dish. That way people feel like they are making it their party, too, and even people who are tight for cash can find something to bring.

    Comments by Tracy Lynn

    comment by Tracy Lynn Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:24 am

     

  13.  

    I think #2 and #4 are the best options. #2 is fun... so that's cool. And, #4 is just an option, which is nice.

    Something about charging admission to your house where you are inviting people just seems strange.

    Comments by AmyD

    comment by AmyD Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:33 am

     

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    If you're choosing to throw a party, IMHO, you should be prepared to eat the cost of whatever you choose to provide for the guests. However, if you want to ask for donations, I don't see a problem with that. I'm willing to bet that you'd get more money than you think, especially once people get liquored up. :-)

    I wish I could make it, but chances are good that I can't. Can't afford it. :-P

    Comments by Squeaky Wheel

    comment by Squeaky Wheel Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:35 am

     

  15.  

    When I go to a party, I always bring something along. I'd ask your guests to bring their favorite drink, or charge $5 if they don't. No one will mind paying if you're hosting.

    Comments by Black Belt Mama

    comment by Black Belt Mama Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:39 am

     

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    Back in the day in college we always charged people a couple of dollars to come to keg parties, but those weren't all that upscale. I don't see $5 as asking all much. At most bars $5 only gets you one mixed drink (or two beers) and a bowl of stale pretzels.

    Comments by Jay

    comment by Jay Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:40 am

     

  17.  

    I wouldn't be offended by asking for $5.00/person, PLUS putting a skull by the door. That's pretty cheap drinking, in my opinion.

    Comments by Tracy

    comment by Tracy Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:41 am

     

  18.  

    $5 is not that much to ask and the raffle idea is great. Totally not tacky!

    Comments by sizzle

    comment by sizzle Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:44 am

     

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    I like the bring a bottle of liquor and a dish idea, too. I think if a guest can't be bothered to contribute, then why bother inviting them? Times are tougher right now for everyone, and it just makes sense to spread the cost of a good time out evenly in this kind of situation instead of one person taking a huge hit. But that's just me, and sometimes I'm kind of a bitch crazywife , but hey, my friends know that and they still want to come to my parties, so they would be happy to contribute, ha!

    Comments by Angel

    comment by Angel Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:45 am

     

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    PS how do I get my mug next to my comment?

    Comments by Angel

    comment by Angel Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:46 am

     

  21.  

    i like the skull donation thing. also, did you rent or buy decorations last year? those can be reused - if you bought them - to help offset the cost..

    Comments by bluepaintred

    comment by bluepaintred Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:51 am

     

  22.  

    If you did the raffle or ticket-to-come, then people who DON'T come might want to also buy something or contribute. 1) we might win something from the raffle. 2) if we bought a ticket, I'd guess you'd have Dave make some laminates or you might get something to "prove" one was part of the get-together, and gives a chance to the non-Floridians to get in on the action.

    I would probably donate to the cause even though I wouldn't attend due to distance.

    Comments by whall

    comment by whall Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:55 am

     

  23.  

    Just so people know, some of us can bring our own bottles, but a dish may be tricky since we'll be in hotels and all.

    Unless...does bringing 150 cheeseburgers from a local fast food place count as "a dish"?

    Comments by Hilly

    comment by Hilly Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 1:08 am

     

  24.  

    fuckin hilly, taking my comment. hehe

    i have no problem bringing booze, but seeing as how i don't cook and i am coming from pittsburgh so i can't even have a friend make a dish to pawn off as my own. unless you want chips and salsa don't ask me to bring a dish.

    having the skull at the door for donations is a spectacular idea. as soon as i had my first moment of fun i'd be tossing in a twenty. the more i drink the more fun i have. i can't even imagine how much money you would get to offset the costs that way. besides, we are a generous lot and simply appreciate your having the party, especially since we don't have to clean up anything that karl whacks, jacks or pees.

    i really, really want to say the five buck idea is good, but it is just way too college rent party. you are a fucking evil ceo for crying out loud! besides, it ain't disney it is your home.

    the raffle could be great fun and an extra funds offsetter, but i don't think doing that alone would gather enough cash. still, it would be fun to win ativaprizes.

    don't deal with a cash bar. total pain in the ass for all involved. while i know you don't drink, haven't you ever heard folks bitchin about cash bars at weddings?

    all of this being said, i'm really looking forward to the insanity. you gonna make the pool blood red again or can i naked cannonball in?

    Comments by hello haha narf

    comment by hello haha narf Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 1:22 am

     

  25.  

    Both #1 and #3.

    $5 a head is not going to raise much money against a massive liquor bill... but it will help offset the cost of the food and pop/beer.

    To pay for that liquor, $2 for a drink is incredibly cheap. You can't get that at any bar!!

    Comments by Dave2

    comment by Dave2 Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 1:25 am

     

  26.  

    think a bring your own booze policy and asking for donations in the skull are your best bet.

    after all you are going to have enough to contend with just paying for my airfair over there

    Comments by Dan

    comment by Dan Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 1:42 am

     

  27.  

    Either #3, or a BYOB policy of some sort. I'm sure people would be willing to pitch in. Bloggers are cool like that.

    Comments by Iron Fist

    comment by Iron Fist Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 3:04 am

     

  28.  

    As my nights go bringing a big bottle of Vodka (and maybe Amarula if I am in the mood) and feeling happy leaving a 20 or two in the "talking skull" would still be less than half of what I spend on a night out. I'd go for it.

    The skull would most likely be talking by the time I leave to sleep in my car.

    Comments by Zanthera

    comment by Zanthera Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 3:12 am

     

  29.  

    anyone who drinks knows how expensive alcohol is and quite frankly anyone who would have an issue with you asking for a bit of help to make the party enjoyable for everyone is, well, not nice. to put it in un-rudely terms.

    I say you sell tickets and also make it known that donations are welcome. I don't see a damn think tacky about that. It would probably still be cheaper for people than having the party at some bar.

    Comments by patricia

    comment by patricia Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 3:17 am

     

  30.  

    I say do #1, #2, and #3... although I would play with the pricing because it all seems incredibly cheap. I would also think about maybe adding in a drink bracelet for like $20... because I know for myself finding singles in my pockets, much less a costume, is a bitch.

    I'm not a fan of the donations part. I have a severe aversion to donations ever since finding out my "donation" for admission into the Metropolitan Museum of Art goes towards their private parties and not to the art itself for which they receive public funding. From that point on I literally donated a penny.

    Comments by NYCWD

    comment by NYCWD Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 6:02 am

     

  31.  

    I think if the party rocks, what's $5 very affordable :) I don't like that pic and it isn't mine?

    Comments by Lu'

    comment by Lu' Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 6:21 am

     

  32.  

    I think #3 and #4 are reasonable. $5 for an Avitable party? That's cheap... and I would pay it in a heartbeat if we could afford it right now.

    Comments by bubblewench

    comment by bubblewench Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 6:27 am

     

  33.  

    I think that the BYOB is a good idea. A great idea is BYOG. Have everybody bring a 5 gallon can of gasoline. By Halloween that shit might be $10 a gallon.

    Comments by Been there Done that

    comment by Been there Done that Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 6:34 am

     

  34.  

    5 dollars per person for a ticket is very fair and you get to hang out with what seem to be very awesome group of people

    Comments by Irene

    comment by Irene Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 7:15 am

     

  35.  

    If you charge man, you aren't having a party, you're running a bar.

    #5 is the straight up option.

    #4 asking people to kick in to help with the booze is OK, as long as the skull is sitting there and not being carried around and shoved in peoples faces, thought is is OK to videotape it so you can see later which friends are too cheap to ever invite back.

    Comments by GeorgeH

    comment by GeorgeH Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 7:29 am

     

  36.  

    I think the skull at the door and raffle tickets, as well as asking everyone to bring one bottle of booze to share isn't asking much.

    If I were in FL, and able to attend, you bet your butt that I would shuck a $20, bring a huge bottle of Sailor Jerry (Rum), and buy all the raffle tickets I could get. I like to win things!

    What you are proposing is something that I try to do anyway at every party I am invited to!(except the raffle tickets)

    And it's not tacky, because a lot of people who are going KNOW why you are asking. The world all of a sudden went and got expensive!!

    Comments by Cissa Fireheart

    comment by Cissa Fireheart Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 7:54 am

     

  37.  

    Thu-reethousand dollars!!! holy shit Av!!!

    I think all of the above would be great and seriously, why would pitching in for a great party be tacky?

    Had I been able to come last time I would've been happy to do so...

    Hmmm... maybe I should start a "Bring Dutchy To Avi's Halloween Party" button on my blog ... soon...

    Comments by DutchBitch

    comment by DutchBitch Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 7:55 am

     

  38.  

    I'd go BYOB or something equivalent.
    I'm pretty sure $2 is reasonable... even at $5 a ticket you're making less than $500. Wonder if it's worth it to collect the cash.

    Comments by Nat

    comment by Nat Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 7:59 am

     

  39.  

    Tori, well, everybody is invited. That's one thing that differentiates this from a party which is only my "friends".

    Hilly, well, I have a professional bartender who would do that.

    Amanda, yeah, I don't usually buy raffle tickets, either, but if I was giving something away like a Wii, people might.

    Stephanie, well, of course, we'd have free drink tickets.

    Karl, I wouldn't want to do both - I don't want to make a profit off of this.

    Turnbaby, where's an email from you? I'm waiting! :)

    Princess, I will never have people bring their own booze. That's too hard to coordinate with a bartender, especially when I'm trying to keep a fully stocked bar for every possible type of drink.

    Poppy, I don't need to make my money back - just cut my costs down by 25% maybe.

    BE Earl, this wouldn't be a party where people bringing anything would work. It will probably be fully catered, and trying to make sure that I wasn't missing types of liquor would just be more stress for me.

    Amber, that's a good point.

    BE Earl, I definitely hope you're in the area!

    Tracy, that's why I thought $2/drink was very reasonable - for $10, which would be about the cost of anything someone would bring, they could have 5 drinks, which is probably pretty typical for the average person.

    AmyD, well, that's where I'm torn, too. I don't want it to feel like people are coming to my house. I want them to feel like they're coming to a venue, and then it wouldn't be weird. I think.

    Squeaky Wheel, yeah, that's how I feel, too, so I'm leaning towards doing nothing but putting out a donation skull. And c'mon, just sell one of your guns and you could afford to come down!

    BBM, well, this isn't the type of party where it makes sense for people to bring something.

    Jay, they way I thought of it was if I did have the party somewhere else, at a professional venue, people wouldn't think twice about it, and it is pretty reasonable. Hm.

    Tracy, I'd feel bad if I did both things, I think.

    Sizzle, the raffle could be cool because I'd be giving out something awesome like a Nintendo Wii.

    Angel, well, it's an open invitation for the party and it's going to be catered and bartended, so aksing anyone to bring anything probably wouldn't work too well. And if you go to http://www.gravatar.com and sign up for an account, you'll have your avatar show up on all the sites that use Gravatar.

    BPR, I buy them, but we also change the theme every year, so we can only reuse a small percentage of them.

    Wayne, that's a good idea. And thanks for volunteering Dave to do work, too! That way, I don't have to ask.

    Hilly, that's the other reason, besides the bartender, where it would be impractical to ask anyone to bring something.

    Hello, the pool will still be another color. Maybe not red this year.

    Dave, so, having been to a previous party, you don't think it would feel weird to have a cash bar? That's my biggest concern.

    Dan, and of course, you want to fly first class, right? Cheeky fucker.

    Iron Fist, that is true - bloggers are generally pretty cool.

    Zanthera, we also have a comfortable front yard for those who want to sleep in it.

    Patricia, thank you for your input - I definitely agree with you.

    NYCWD, I wouldn't do all three, and I want it to be very cheap - just enough to help, but I wouldn't want to make money on the deal. A drink bracelet is a good idea, though - didn't think about that!

    Lu', the pic on the left? You have to go to http://www.gravatar.com to get your own picture to show up.

    Bubblewench, ok, thanks for the input!

    Been There, that's brilliant!

    Irene, oh, we're totally awesome.

    GeorgeH, well, I am running a party that I want to feel like a venue, especially since it's an open invitation to everyone.

    Cissa, I wouldn't want to do more than just one of those things - anything else and I'd feel bad.

    DB, I feel ilke it's tacky because I'm the host and it just doesn't seem right.

    Nat, that's a good point, too.

    Comments by Avitable

    comment by Avitable Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 8:00 am

     

  40.  

    I didn't realize you provide all the booze. Do you have any idea how much beer my hubby can drink??? Let alone the wine and VO I drink?

    I think donations would raise you more money. The raffle is a great idea also, but I don't think you would raise as much.

    Comments by Trishk

    comment by Trishk Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 8:01 am

     

  41.  

    And Dan nicks my comment - maybe a chartered Jet for the British contingent? thumbsup

    Being a money grabbing charity fundraiser I'd go for 1, 2, 3 and 4. But seriously, the easiest options are the cash bar and a ticket scheme but Dave2 is right $5 is no where near enough... unless you're expecting about 1000 people!

    Comments by Bec

    comment by Bec Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 8:02 am

     

  42.  

    Well,seriously. You threw a great party so I personally think you shouldn't feel like that. I would have NO problem with it! Muah!

    Comments by DutchBitch

    comment by DutchBitch Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 8:10 am

     

  43.  

    1. Put up a donation button here on your site *before* the party. You are going to blog about this, aren't you? Give your readers a chance to support you a little.

    2. #4, and make sure to appoint somebody to periodically remind people about it a couple times during the night.

    3. Also might I suggest you do a Chippendale's style dance? Chris Farley comes to mind here (he was awesome, and you could totally pull it off). You could end up with a ton of cash!

    Comments by Karen

    comment by Karen Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 8:26 am

     

  44.  

    I like #2 and #4, but I really think you should have a booth. You know, like a kissing booth. But instead of kissing you, we play "whack an Avitable". Or... "fist and Avitable".... you get the point. It's win, win and you can charge like 200.00 a person. This party will make you money. Of course your asshole/entire body would be a little sore, but woohoo

    Comments by ADW

    comment by ADW Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 8:35 am

     

  45.  

    Incorporate as a home business, write it off as an expense and as a year-end loss.

    Or, only invite AA members.

    Comments by Jan

    comment by Jan Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 8:57 am

     

  46.  

    I love throwing parties, but I know what you mean about the cost getting out of control sometimes. I can see both sides of it. You don't want to charge anyone because you feel like that would be tacky. People wouldn't mind paying because no one wants you to go to so much expense. I don't have any advice, other than that I don't drink so I think if you do charge, you should probably make sure that people drinking pay more than people not drinking...not to punish them or anything, just because alcohol is expensive so their cost would be more. I don't think anyone would mind if you charged a little. If I were coming, I'd be happy to chip in.

    Comments by radioactivegirltori

    comment by radioactivegirltori Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 9:22 am

     

  47.  

    As a veteran of lots of Really Big Parties (not so much since the AA kicked in...Jan does have a point), I have to go solidly with 5. That said, I find that people usually WANT to bring something so I end up with more food and liquor than I started with in the first place.

    Comments by Jennifer

    comment by Jennifer Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 9:25 am

     

  48.  

    I've been to tons of parties where the admission price was a bottle of booze or a 12pk of Coke. Those that didn't bring drinks paid a token ($1-$5) entry fee. This works well for people who bring along a friend last minute and for people who can't really bring a dish of food to share. I've also been at parties where a bag of Doritos got you in. Cash bars are a pain in the ass at a private party and a donation jar may or may not work out. The only real issue to me is that if you need to bring something or pay something, someone has to sit at the door half the night which can be a bummer. Unless you have a kid... they usually like jobs like that.

    Comments by Winter

    comment by Winter Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 9:34 am

     

  49.  

    I like #3 but I'm going to use my Florida resident discount like at Disney, alright?

    Comments by Peggy

    comment by Peggy Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 9:37 am

     

  50.  

    Were it just a party with friends, #5 would be your answer. But as it isn't, I think #3 is the most efficient option (but you may want to rethink the amount - $10 may be more appropriate). I say this because it's much easier for someone like me who doesn't carry much cash to plan ahead. I know going in how much it will cost and can be sure to have enough with me.

    The raffle idea works too, but I suspect you won't get enough money to offset your costs.

    Even at $10 a person it's a cheap for a night of drinking.

    Comments by Finn

    comment by Finn Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 9:43 am

     

  51.  

    I like Wayne's idea of a raffle. I wasn't there last year and I felt left out of a good time. As long as there is a great prize,all of your LOOOONG distance friends could feel part of the fun and games! clap

    Comments by metalmom

    comment by metalmom Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 9:50 am

     

  52.  

    I'm no math Genius, but I married one and if I had to ask her she'd tell me that 3,000.00$ to 5,000.00$ for 65 guests amounts to around 50.00$ to 75.00$/guest.

    Like some others flying in, I would not be able to bring food (well, maybe maple syrup?), but I would be more than willing to bring a nice bottle of Scotch (I would bring one regardless).

    You might also consider setting a "Virtual Skull" in a form of a PayPal button on your site, that way you could get money IN ADVANCE to get stuff for your party. I know I would give.

    Cash bar is awkward, unless you go with Dawg's idea of a drink bracelet.

    Comments by Mike

    comment by Mike Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 9:58 am

     

  53.  

    I vote for Dawg's suggestion of a drink bracelet (see? It pays to read the comments first!) and the raffle, especially if you are raffling a Wii! woohoo

    I really, really, really hope I can come this year! martini

    J.

    Comments by Hoosier Girl

    comment by Hoosier Girl Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 10:21 am

     

  54.  

    I think asking for money is fine, any of those options. Personally I'd rather pay a fee at first so I don't have to think about it for the rest of the night. Once I get drunk I tend to start offering oral sex for drinks anyway...

    Comments by Robin

    comment by Robin Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 10:22 am

     

  55.  

    BYOB! And a can of food for the Food Bank to get in? :)

    Comments by Karen Sugarpants

    comment by Karen Sugarpants Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 10:27 am

     

  56.  

    i've been reading all the advice you have coming in and one very important thought popped into my head. a cash bar means slower service, no two ways about it. slower service means it will take us longer to get drunk. and the longer it takes me to get drunk, the longer my clothes stay on.

    no. cash. bar.

    (however i do love the one price drink bracelet and skull at the door ideas.)

    p.s. adw is so right...a whack avitable booth would be awesome and raise heaps o cash!

    Comments by hello haha narf

    comment by hello haha narf Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 10:29 am

     

  57.  

    None of it really bothers me. Because it isn't my party. (although I do plan on attending this year...)

    $5 a head x 65 = $325. That doesn't even cover the booze....

    Comments by themuttprincess

    comment by themuttprincess Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 10:32 am

     

  58.  

    I think the cash bar and raffle are great ideas. Charging people to come though might upset people. I dunno. Maybe.

    The skull donation thing is a good idea. But I'd go with 1 and 2

    Comments by Christie

    comment by Christie Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 10:36 am

     

  59.  

    The giant donation skull fine, but I think actually charging for drinks is tacky. Just ask people to bring what they want to drink.

    Comments by Karen

    comment by Karen Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 10:40 am

     

  60.  

    Came from Jay's place with a total snooty, white collar bitchy answer.

    If you can't afford to throw a party and provide for your guests, don't throw it. It is inappropriate to expect your friends to pay for the pleasure of your company whether by raffle or cash bar. This isn't a college kegger I assume.

    However, it is not inappropriate to serve beer and soft drinks and put BYOB on the invitation if people want something stronger. Maybe you should consider toning it down a bit.

    Comments by Christine

    comment by Christine Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 10:49 am

     

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    #3 is ok, but option #1 is my favorite. I'd even make it $1 beers and $2 mixed drinks with free non-alc beverages. That way those who are doing the drinking foot the bill, and those who are not have a fun free time watching all the alcoholics fall down.

    Comments by Atomic Bombshell

    comment by Atomic Bombshell Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 11:17 am

     

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    The Problem with a raffle is the cost of an awesome gift that would bring in everyones ticket wouldn't hardly offset it's price let alone *make* money to offset booze costs with as few guests as you have.

    I would lean toward BYOB. Blender, glasses, ice, salt, limes, etc. provided.

    Comments by Fogspinner

    comment by Fogspinner Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 11:21 am

     

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    Yeah, I had forgotten that lots of people were traveling until I read Hilly's comment. You are right, that sounds good.

    Don't get used to me saying that. lmao

    Comments by Tracy Lynn

    comment by Tracy Lynn Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 11:47 am

     

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    having not read any of the other comments, i would have to say either cash bar or skull. personally, i'd probably prefer the skull so las as i knew the people coming and that they were stand up types. but the cash bar would be a DEFINITE way to recoup some money. people wanna drink and when they wanna drink, they'll pay for it.

    Comments by Crys

    comment by Crys Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 11:51 am

     

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    Maybe first class on the inbound flight, coach on the outbound. I'm not greedy.

    Comments by Dan

    comment by Dan Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:07 pm

     

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    I like Dawg's drink breacelet idea. I really don't think any of those options are terribly tacky, though. Maybe not ideal, but they aren't downright tacky! Do you really need a bartender, though? Can't people make their own drinks?

    Comments by Sybil Law

    comment by Sybil Law Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:21 pm

     

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    Dammit - I CAN spell bracelet right, see?!

    Comments by Sybil Law

    comment by Sybil Law Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:21 pm

     

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    TrishK, I always provide all of the booze - makes it easier!

    Bec, I don't need to pay for everything, just take a small dent out of it.

    DB, aww, thanks.

    Karen, I'd feel weird to raise donations online for myself - just doesn't seem right.

    ADW, how much would you pay to fist me?

    Radioactive, yeah, that's the dilemma I'm seeing.

    Jennifer, since it's going to be catered, I don't want people to bring anything. That will fuck up my whole plan, and I'm very OCD about that.

    Winter, that would be the downfall to a cover charge.

    Peggy, oh yeah - the Florida discount!

    Finn, that's helpful. Thank you.

    Metalmom, good point - I could have several prizes. Hm.

    Mike, with the catering costs, that seems about right. Your math genius is right.

    HG, well, I might be raffling a Wii - I don't know yet.

    Robin, well, oral sex is a good substitute.

    Karen, there will be no BYOB - not that type of party. And a can of food? So confused.

    Hello, how about a whack avitable off booth?

    TMP, yeah, that's true, for so little money it might not be worth that method.

    Christie, thanks for your input!

    Karen, we have a full bar setup with professional bartender - I'm not making it a free-for-all when it comes to liquor. That would just stress me out.

    Christine, is it inappropriate to expect strangers to pay for the pleasure of my company? Thanks for the input - I agree with you almost completely.

    Atomic Bombshell, what about the non-alcoholics who are drinking? They have to pay and they don't get to fall down!

    Fogspinner, this isn't a BYOB type party, unfortunately.

    Tracy, you know I'm always right.

    Crystal, this is why I'm so torn.

    Dan, you're a generous soul.

    Sybil, of course I need a bartender - it would be chaos otherwise.

    Comments by Avitable

    comment by Avitable Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 12:39 pm

     

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    I'm with Karl and Dave2 on this. #1 AND #3 should be the de facto rule for coming to the party. $5 is the cover charge (will there be a band? Guitar Hero III? Rock Band?) and $2 a drink.

    Adding one more thing to this: $5 includes your first two drinks... after that, it's $2 a pop.

    If I can make it, I'm bring $100 in $1's

    Comments by martymankins

    comment by martymankins Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 1:03 pm

     

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    I would think that anybody who'd fly to Florida for a Halloween party would be willing to throw cash into a bucket to help offset the cost, slightly. But also consider how much the average person pays for airfare and hotel to even come to the party.

    I don't think it's tacky to ask for help paying as long as you leave it optional...because then people feel obligated to chip in and you get results. If you tell people they HAVE to do it, some poeple may get all self righteous and just straight out not come. That's just my two cents though.

    Comments by Sheila (Charm School Reject)

    comment by Sheila (Charm School Reject) Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 1:17 pm

     

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    Visiting from Jay's blog. I read your "about" section, so I'm fucking commenting. Plus, I can't resist the temptation to give assvice when it's asked for.

    I think $2 a mixed drink is fair. You're offering free beer & soda, and you're not holding a gun to anyone's head to MAKE them buy a drink.

    Comments by fiwa

    comment by fiwa Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 1:38 pm

     

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    Take #3 and modify. Admission to the party is 1 bottle of booze. (NOT A TINY ONE DRINK BOTTLE EITHER! LOL) That way your alcohol is supplied which should offset some of the cost. Donation skull is cool too. Also, the months leading up you can do some "fundraising" around here too.

    Comments by Miss

    comment by Miss Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 1:44 pm

     

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    I'd say #2 and #3, plus anyone who misbehaves gets rolled and their ass peddled to the other guests.

    Comments by Grant

    comment by Grant Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 2:03 pm

     

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    Marty, $100 in $1s? Well, I will be stripping.

    Sheila, that's true - some people will be spending a lot just to come.

    Fiwa, well, I was going to carry a gun around and make people give up cash, but maybe I'll reconsider.

    Miss, I can't do that - that's relying to random people to magically keep the bar stocked with the type of booze we need. We'd probably end up with 60 bottles of Popov vodka or something.

    Grant, now that's a plan!

    Comments by Avitable

    comment by Avitable Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 2:13 pm

     

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    I like 1. Or 3.

    Comments by Maria

    comment by Maria Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 2:22 pm

     

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    What about a 50/50 draw? Sell people a row of raffle tickets for $10 or $20 per strip/armlength (from those rolls of double raffle tickets you can get at the dollar store). The winner keeps 50% of the take and the house keeps the other half. We do this at our pub nights and sometimes just this draw alone brings in a thousand bucks. Of course, I don't know what Florida's gambling laws are like and if this is even legal there. We're actually supposed to get a $25 gambling license every time we do this, but we haven't yet and I'm not in jail. Wait...cubicle, monotonous tasks, gruel for lunch...gaaaaaah!!!

    (btw, I had to type this comment in my NoteTab and paste it onto the form, because everytime I typed a letter on your comment form I got an error. Don't know if the errors are from your side or if this prison just doesn't provide us with good enough equipment to surf the internet on their time)

    Comments by Procrastamom

    comment by Procrastamom Friday, May 30, 2008 @ 2:23 pm

     

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