This week has been named by some random blogger to be Blog Reader Appreciation Week. I've seen several bloggers do some pretty cool stunts and posts about their readers, so I wanted to come up with something a little different.
I'd like to hear from each of you about what makes you feel appreciated as a reader. Is it a reply comment? Is it acknowledgment? A return comment on your own blog? Oral sex?
What actions, elements, aspects, and characteristics of a blog make you feel appreciated as a reader and a commenter? What do bloggers do that make you feel unappreciated? Do you have any suggestions for me personally that would help you feel more appreciated as a reader and commenter?
And to show my appreciation for all of my readers, I'll pick a random commenter today who answers one of those questions by midnight PST tonight and they will win their choice of a $50 Amazon.com gift certificate or a $50 AdamandEve.com gift certificate! I'll announce the winner on Sunday.
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I'm a needy bitch. Oh, and oral sex doesn't hurt to get either. *snerk*
Comments by Kris
replying to comments is all I need to feel appreciated. Which, I should reply more to MY comments. I'm a total Slacker
Comments by bluepaintred
I always feel appreciated. Especially when you offer to do both myself and my husband in the pooper.
Comments by ADW
I always feel appreciated with some nipple play. But that's just me.
Comments by sizzle
Definitely oral sex. Or asking me to send pictures of my boobs.
Seriously... just responding to comments. I rarely comment on blogs that don't reply to comments. If they don't have the courtesy to acknowledge I've said something, I'm not going to say anything.
Comments by Amanda
I like it when I am acknowledged, period. Whether by comment, reply, email, link trade, whatever. I am so very easy.
I will say that you and Sizzle are the most responsive people I read. And this may seem odd, but I appreciate bloggers who write regularly. It's like they are keeping me 'in the loop', as it were.
Ok, you got one serious response. NO MORE FOR YOU.
Comments by Tracy Lynn
Well, I always think it is cool how Britt sees the humor when I make real creepy prev comments on her blog.
But it makes ME a little uncomfortable when I make those some kind of comments on your blog and you call me on that fucking Iphone and tell me you are touching yourself and how hard your nipples are.
I mean, I appreciated the positive affirmation and all, but you know when you say you want to rub all over me and make sweet love...? Could you please write that stuff down next time and let Britt read it over your Iphone. I mean, that might help me a little bit. ...just thinking.
Other than that, I like the way you treat commentors and I wish I was able to be as kind, thoughtful and inviting.
Comments by Y2K Survivor
Oral sex is good. But before that dinner and a movie.
Comments by kim
What actions, elements, aspects, and characteristics of a blog make you feel appreciated as a reader and a commenter?
Smilies. Lots and lots of smilies.
What do bloggers do that make you feel unappreciated?
Turn off comments so I can't engage.
Do you have any suggestions for me personally that would help you feel more appreciated as a reader and commenter?
I'm sorry to say you are perfect just the way you are. But, you could do more vlogs and I wouldn't mind.
Also, you should totally pick me to win so I can give my prize to Dawg like I said I would if I won one of your contests. WHEEEEEEE!!!
Comments by Poppy
I feel appreciated when a blogger remains true to themselves and doesn't change to better suit their audience. I started reading them for a reason, and I'm willing to bet it WASN'T because they sucked up to their readers at the expense of their voice.
I feel not only under-appreciated, but actual rage, when a blogger turns into a fucking whore that will say whatever they have to in order to keep their reader count. Nothing will cause me to delete a webfeed faster than a blog whore who lives for their stats more than their writing.
Comments by Dave2
It's all about interaction for me, whether it be that you answer my comment here, comment on my blog now and again or you know...email me those nudey pictures you are so fond of sending me.
I'm an odd fuckette who always feels appreciated when engaged, like my opinion matters...that may be why I try to involve my readers a lot.
Comments by Hilly
OMG and what Dave said too....this is why I love him and have taken him back.
*snort*
Comments by Hilly
I think you already do a bang-up job to make people feel appreciated. We share many of the same feelings on how blogs should be utilized, particularly in the comments.
I feel appreciated when I leave a comment and the blogger responds to me. Doesn't have to be in e-mail, though that's cool. Just respond somewhere in the comment stream, acknowledge that I was there.
I feel appreciated when I get the occasional link from someone, too. Or when someone @'s me on Twitter. It doesn't take much to make me feel appreciated.
Comments by Karl
I like per-comment replies, and I appreciate having a civil disagreement when disagreement arises.
But the highest compliment that isn't outrageous is a return visit to my blog and to see what I do/write/have interests in. You do that well.
Comments by whall
Yeah, the answering comments is usually a big thing. I've gotten lax about it cause I've been really busy and gotten behind. But, that's not really a good excuse. I'm just being lazy.
What I really can't stand is when people answer some comments and not others. Like they have 12 comments and they answer the first two and then maybe like the 7th comment and then the last one, but leave the other eight people without a response. That's just rude. If you feel the need to just answer one person send them a freaking email.
Oh and comment moderation. I just hate it. Especially when someone responds to my comment without actually posting the comment and then misrepresents what I had said. That's happened to me. I rarely comment on blogs that have moderation turned on.
Comments by Jay
To me the difference between a blog and just a website is that a blog is interactive. You post, I comment, you respond, etc. I think a return visit and comment on my blog is awesome, although I think that is going the extra mile. You have always been awesome with your readers. I think that's why you have a loyal following.
Comments by Willie G
I just wish I knew why your blog takes so damn long to load for me. WAY longer time than any other. Maybe it's the 40 bajillion animated smilies, I don't know.
On any blog, responding to comments is key for me. I've actually dropped some blogs from my "regular reads" because they rarely/never respond to commenters. If someone like Britt, with her 147 comments daily, can manage to respond to all of them in turn, somebody with 30-50 should certainly be able to manage it. But you're pretty good about that, I think.
Return visits are always nice, but I'd prefer people stop by because they WANT to, rather than feeling obligated to do so because I visited their blog.
So unless you can optimize your website to load in a speedier fashion especially for me, I think I'll opt for free porn.
Comments by SJ
I agree with what most people are saying- just any kind of acknowledgment. Email, comment back, or commenting on my blog.
I do like it if people I read religiously come to my blog at least once in a while and comment. It doesn't have to be often- but that's just me.
Comments by Princess of the Universe
GIVEAWAYS!!! Yay!! I feel so appreciated by you!! Thanks :)
Commenting back is nice, but I just appreciate your hilarious blog posts.
Comments by bunny
I'm a first time commenter.
Since I have no blog of my own (yet!)I feel appreciated when receiving a direct response to a reply comment I've made. And even though I have never entered one cuz I am too lazy to take the time to type, I appreciate all of the little contests you do....winning stuff definitely makes people feel good. Oh.......and I also feel special when you say "Hey, fuckers!" cuz I know I am actually one of the fuckers you are referring to.
What pisses me off more than anything is when a comment of mine has not been approved by the blogger. Unless I am ripping your head off and cussing you out for something you said, I expect to see the comment that I took the time to write actually posted. I have actually stopped reading a blog that I really loved because for whatever reason, she chose not to approve a couple of my comments (about FOOD of all things!)
Comments by Cyndi
yep, replies to comments is the biggest thing a blogger can do to appreciate me. although they need to have the fucking option for me to subscribe to the damn comments in the first place!!)
if you wanna appreciate me some more, oral sex is a beautiful thing, my friend. so are back massages.
Comments by hello haha narf
Adam, you host the BIGGEST HALLOWEEN party for Bloggers in the entire continental USA, AT YOUR HOUSE. You respond to your comments, come up with contests (with real prizes even!), do vlogs of things that the majority of us would be WAY too embarrassed to EVER do (I know NO other man who will sing Carrie Underwood, much less post it for the entire world to see), and you pop over every now and again to see everyone who reads you...
That is pretty amazing! I think you do a fantastic job and I can see I'm not the only who thinks so. We all love ya, Adam! :)
(Also, thanks! I never realize how important commenting back was to people until reading this. I didn't realize that's what they wanted... I thought people just said what they wanted to say and that was it. Uhm, yeah, I totally suck. So now I will start commenting back more religiously with whatever I think when reading their comments. Always giving back, even when you're looking for some feedback, thanks!) :)
Comments by Amber
As a perpetually D-list blogger just swinging on the vines around the perimeter of the circle of popularity, for me it's all about being a part of the action, baby. Yes, oral sex would be nice, but I think more important than orgasms (assuming, of course, they would be achieved) is to read a blog and relate to what is being said without having to have been involved in what you're writing about.
I realize that some might think that flies in the face of what blogging is supposed to be, but I also believe there are as many opinions about that particular subject as their are blogs, so blah.
Often I think as bloggers we find our group of people we love to read and who love to read us, and even if we're not filling any more chairs in the private room, I feel it is important to allow the reader to at least feel as if he or she is included. I actually think you do an excellent job of this, and while I have yet to hear you scream my name...er...mention me specifically in your blog, I have no problem relating to what you're writing about and really enjoy reading your posts. And kissing your ass, apparently.
Comments by TSM
I don't like when bloggers turn off their comments. It makes me feel like they think they are above other people, or superior somehow. I especially don't like it when I have something to say.
I actually really like how you respond to comments. I try to, but I don't always do it. I don't know if I feel appreciated as a reader by you commenting on my blog, but I know that I appreciate the comments just because it is nice to know that someone out there still reads it. But then again, I don't always leave a comment because I sometimes don't know what to say.
This probably would have been a better comment if did it tomorrow after some sleep. :)
Comments by Lynda
I feel fully appreciated as a reader and commenter here, I look forward to being called a "fucker" in your Saturday vlogs.
Comments by Mik
I pick D. All of the above.
OK yes I like it when bloggers comment back to their readers, I really like it when they come back not once but several times to my blog (only once and it feels like a pity comment. HEE!) But when they take the time to email me personally on something, that is just awesome in my book.
I have built up some great friendships through blogging to the point of exchanging Christmas cards and a few times, sending me stuff for my birthday or a card to say "hey". It's all good. We all want to be acknowledged and accepted.
Comments by Kay
I enjoy not only link love, sloppy oral sex and the screaming of my name but also constant emails to ensure that you don't forget me.
Comments by Chris
I've been reading your blog for awhile but I don't think I have ever commented before.
I am such an introvert that it usually takes me awhile to feel comfortable enough to comment on a blog. So if I comment and am not even acknowledged, it's a huge blow to my tiny little ego. Especially when almost every other comment is acknowledged. Which probably says more about me than the blogger.
(I think) You do a great job of interacting with your readers and making them feel that this isn't just your blog, but a little piece of it belongs to them.
Oh, and more sex, please. Seriously, I don't even care about oral, just get to it!
Comments by penny
Some sort of interaction so that I know you appreciate the fact that I take the time to read your blog. So either respond to my comment, email me, check out my blog....something like that.
Comments by Karen
What I like about you is that you could have 100 comments yet you take the time to respond to each and every single commenter. Not only that you respond in a personal way. You make your readers feel appreciated everyday they come here by doing that...in my opinion.
In addition to responding to all of your commenters you also take the time to visit a lot of your readers because I see your comments on so many blogs, including my own. NOT that I'm stalking you because I know that sounds stalker-creepy like.
You get my drift.
I think you do a great job at showing your fellow bloggers that you appreciate them.
Comments by Lisa
"Love me or Hate me, but spare me your indifference." ~Libbie Fuldim
Acknowledging eachother, whether you be the Reader or the Writer. How else are we to know?
And your question: "Do you have any suggestions for me personally that would help you feel more appreciated as a reader and commenter?
Yeah, you can offer to perform Oral Sex on your women readers.
Yep, that should about do it.
All women who agree with this last suggestion say "AYE"!
AYE
An "Adam and Eve" Gift Certificate, eh???
~Eve *smile*
Comments by EveToYourAdamZZ
I will concur with most of the commentors before me-a comment back is the shiz-nit. I also really appreciated when you came by my blog and put in your two cents there, too, but I don't expect that so it was like an extra cherry on top. :)
You are the only guy blogger I read, actually. I'm all about the Mommies, but I dig your style.
Comments by Angel
A reply comment is simply the best way to acknowledge those who comment on your blog. They took time out of there day to read what you wrote, and in return you should take a few minutes to reply to their comment.
I know that you do this very well.
I also know that Oral Sex from you isn't very good. In fact, it's downright terrible. I WOULD NOT offer that to your readers if you want to keep them around.
Even better than reply comments are return comments. Nothing says I love you more than going to the commentators blog and reading what they have to say. This would get quite time consuming if you have a lot of commentators (like you do.) Picking a few at random each day, especially any new persons that happen to stroll by, and leaving a quick comment on their blog could get them to return the next day. And return visits are what it's all about, baby.
But no Oral Sex anymore. Please.
Comments by Bucky
I really appreciate a blogger who can write well and have posts you can "really bite into" whether they are funny, personal, insightful, or even a good rant. On the commenting side I don't comment unless I can do the same in return.
For you Adam? I am still here everyday reading your posts so you must be doing something right. Yes you intimidated me at first but I usually get that way a lot when meeting new vibrant outgoing people but once I got to know the big fluffy heart you have under that rough hairy exterior of yours I got comfortable hanging around here. I do agree with the answering each of our comments is a nice touch.
I don't even mind you haven't been around my place much
Comments by Zanthera
I appreciate acknowledgment from the comment...whether it's a personal e-mail reply or in the comments by the author. Also it doesn't hurt if a blogger I comment on visits my blog in return. I have such a small traffic base, I can actually tell when a comment I made on someone else's blog has made an impact because my traffic goes WAY up from like 30 people a day to like 40 or 45.
So I like good blog entries I can comment on....now if only I could find a way to write interesting stuff so that people would comment more on my blog....
Comments by Cissa Fireheart
Blogging is all about interacting with people for me. It isn't important to me whether or not you ever visit or comment on my blog. But I love it that you respond to every comment I leave here.
Comments by Em
I totally want them to come to my site and comment. It's only fair.
Comments by corrin
The one thing that totally floats my boat? When I discover that I am listed on someone's blogroll! I figure it doesn't take much to respond to a comennt but it DOES take some time and thought to update the blogroll you probably made when you first started blogging.
Pretty cool....
Oh, and if someone were to send me a PRADA bag, I would know that they REALLY appreciated me!!
Hallie :)
http://wonderfulworldofweiners.blogspot.com/
Comments by Hallie
I think I feel most appreciated after the second comment. Anyone can stumble onto your blog through many different avenues and leave a random comment. ("Hey, love this post!") But then you never hear from them again. I feel truly appreciated when someone comes back a second and third time (and even more). It makes me realize some of what I say does matter, does cause people to think... even though most of my blog posts are crap. LOL
Comments by THIS MOM
I like return comments on MY blog. Getting a response on the post I left the original comment on is nice, byut I don't always remember to check back. Plus, with so many people using feed readers, getting a comment also shows that the person took the time to click through.
Comments by *pixie*
From the first time I came around you made feel welcome, even though I am a self proclaimed MommyBlogga!!!!javascript:moreSmiliesAappendSmiley('
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sexytime
But who's totally hot remember? JK....
Comments by misi
Hey Adam,
This is probably a weird ? but I don't know where to turn...
Somehow my computer fucked up and I can't get my email to load. I don't have the right settings after I lined up w/ Firefox.
Hence no email access for DAYS!!!! I have tried everything and seriously thinking of breaking this computer but then I remembered I need it to read your blog:)
Any suggestions or help?????
Comments by misi
I'd have to say that I like how you respond to each comment.
I also agree with what Dave2 had to say up there. i think the best way to appreciate one's readers is to stay true to what brought them to your blog in the first place. Which, presumably, would be the writer saying what they want to say.
Comments by Paticus
I feel appreciated when I am not ignored. Also, when someone says, "Hey, you have nice boobs." Or, when someone buys me dinner. Barring that, oral sex will do....
As a blogger, I try so very hard not to lose my "voice". I don't wanna piss anyone off, but it's important to me that my blog say what *I* feel, rather than what I think people want to hear. On the other side of that, when I'm feeling like a complete toad, I feel bad that all I do on my blog is bitch...
Comments by Miss Anne Derstood
In my opinion, having a blog is in an essence your online diary. A place you can write and write and write and write, only this place is where you'll get feedback. Good or Bad.
It makes me feel appreciated as a blogger when I either leave someone good advice that they take with them and understand, or when I am writing and someone stumbles upon my blog and enjoys what I write, and compliments me... that's a great appreciative feeling, one that I think keeps alot of us going out there.
What makes me feel unappreciated is when I either same something to someone, or email them... etc, and I don't get a reply from them. I know, not everyone replies, but I like the thought of either having the blog auther reply by via comments (like you do) or via email... either are good, and I know it is hard to have that happen all the time when you have an abundance of comments...however everyonce in a while it's nice.
And no, I don't think you need to do anything else... I come here for the laughs and schtuff! You have a nack for writing, and it's something I look forward to! When I'm having a bad day, or when others are having a bad day... I and whoever else should stomp right over here. It's guaranteed that we'll find a post that will give us a good belly laugh!
I mean, come on... just your smileys alone are one to make us laugh... ha! 
Comments by Krystle
To echo what everyone else had to say is that reply commenting and a return visit is always appreciated. I know that since I started replying to my comments I get more commenters and I try to make it a point to visit their blogs and comment. I think that's what really keeps all of us going.
Comments by Lady Jaye
Responses to comments.
And contests with prizes. I like prizes.
Comments by y not i
I'm going to quote penny who said "I am such an introvert that it usually takes me awhile to feel comfortable enough to comment on a blog. So if I comment and am not even acknowledged, it's a huge blow to my tiny little ego. Especially when almost every other comment is acknowledged."
I agree with that pretty much word for word. Look, I'm a little needy ok? What I like about your blog (and what makes me feel appreciated as a reader) is that you take the time to respond to everyone, even if they're not a part of your regular group.
I also really apreciate the fact that you took the time to leave a couple of comments on my son's blog. (He gets a big kick out of comments.) The only problem was that he wanted to return the favor and leave one for you. I had to lie and say your blog was broken.
Comments by Jen
I'm constantly shocked that anyone is reading my blog, but if you are asking what makes me feel appreciated...I'd love a thick, chocolate milkshake.
Whiskey is always good, too.
Comments by B.E. Earl
I like how you acknowledge all comments - I'm trying to do that on my own blog. It makes both of my readers feel special. As for my blog, I know I have way more lurkers than commenters and I wish more people would leave comments. Do I comment all the time on all blogs I read? Not as often as I should, but I try not to leave gratuitous comments, just sincere ones.
I'm totally choosing Adam & Eve if my comment wins!
Comments by Meg
Apparently "comment whore" runs both ways, whore.
Comments by Poppy
PS - I expect you to RECIPROCATE. 4x/day. Even on Saturdays and Sundays.
Comments by Poppy
As everyone else says, I truly appreciate a response to a comment I leave. I don't expect everyone to pop over to my little corner of the blogosphere, but when they do and leave a comment I am really excited.
I really don't like it when comments are turned off or when they have comment moderation turned on.
Comments by Trishk
PPS - Top commenter for the 20th month in a row! WOOT!
Comments by Poppy
I don't comment much...I read every day but I'm one of those "better keep my mouth shut so I don't sound dumb" people.
When I do comment you generally make me feel welcome and acknowledged. That makes me feel good.
My God that last bit makes me sound like an insecure whiny bitch....
Your blog cracks me up, you don't go off the deep end and shut down when shit hits the fan around you, and you write what's truly on your mind and not what you think someone else wants to hear. That makes me feel good about being one of your readers.
Comments by Cricky
Things that would make me feel appreciated:
1) The blog author responding to my comment.
2) The blog author coming to my blog and returning the favor by reading and commenting.
3) The blog author graciously offering to purchase all my migraine prescriptions for the next ten years.
4) The blog author stopping by to secretly fill up my gas tank while I'm asleep.
5) The author including a smiley of a guy screwing a sheep.
6) The author showing me where the heck this alleged dolphin porn is located on his blog; I've looked for it and can't find it and am intensely curious. I must see it... for, uh... "research purposes". Yes, that's it...
Comments by Janna
Yeah, pretty much what everyone else said - coming over to my insanity, comments and the like... But receiving that hooker by mail really made me happy.
Comments by Bec
I have had some time to think about it, and I don't think that a reply to my comment in the comments is enough to make me feel appreciated. i think, in order for me to really feel appreciated, I should get a hand written response to each comment, on fine stationary, with just a hint of perfume, the envelope sealed with a wax stamp, delivered by a horse driven coach, on a silver platter, surrounded by Andes mints. THEN, I would truly feel appreciated for all the work I do reading your blog and commenting once in awhile.
Comments by Paticus
I think that I feel most appreciated when you hand me the cash as I leave in the middle of the night.
OH! Not that, oh well, when you personally reply to my comments, that is all I really need (other than the cash, which reminds me, you were $50 short last week!).
Comments by themuttprincess
I like the return comment, as I think it's the most visible way of showing your readers that you read comment. Like a personal greeting. That sounds cheesy, but it's the best way to explain that.
As for the oral sex, if I came too quick, sorry... it's not you.
Comments by martymankins
Replying to my comments, as you always do (which I have been slack regarding my own blog) is a perfect way to make your readers feel appreciated. I'm always amazed, too, that you manage to make it over to my blog and comment every. damned. post.
That? Makes me feel well-loved.
Comments by Coal Miner's Granddaughter
I like that you're a regular guy that even though we've never met, I feel I could saddle up next to you at the bar and start BSing with you right away. That's the kind of image you portray through your blog, which is the reason I hang around here.
Comments by Jeff
I love that you take the time to comment back to us. I should probably do that more often, especially since I get so few comments.
The super-duper for me is when you comment on my site. I don't expect it all the time but it makes me a little giddy when you do.
Comments by Gwen
You mean people are supposed to be commenting on my blog?
Huh.
Who'd a thunk it?
Comments by Stephanie
Oh yeah, I like this blog because I like the comment interaction. It shows reader appreciation, I think. Same as with Britt. Like someone else said above...makes us "D" listers feel like we belong.
Dear God, did I just equate myself with Kathy Griffin?
Comments by Stephanie
Reciprocation. I think that it's the least you can do to stop by their blog and comment once in a while. It's just nice.
You make me feel very appreciated, especially when you help me conjure up ways to fuck with bad, bad men. ;)
Comments by Maria
What actions, elements, aspects, and characteristics of a blog make you feel appreciated as a reader and a commenter? What do bloggers do that make you feel unappreciated? Do you have any suggestions for me personally that would help you feel more appreciated as a reader and commenter?
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Like everyone else, I just like it when people respond to my comment/s. To make me feel unappreciated, all they have to do is turn comments off, or never, ever respond to my comments, or never, ever visit my own site. I don't need them to come by all the time, but if they never check in, then I get a little pissed, I must say. A big thrill is seing me on their blogroll. The best thrill is having them (you, really) draw a picture of them!
I really don't know how you could improve - you are always generous and kind with the comments, etc! (You know what I mean...!) Oral sex, though - now that is something that would fo sho get me to come by more often.
I can't believe I just used that smilie! Haha
Comments by sybil law
I like your way of aknowledgement, it works just fine for me!
Comments by LylaLou
I don't need appreciation. I show up because I want to, and I don't need acknowledgment of my presence or my reading at all.
Shoot.
Let me think of something.
What makes me feel appreciated, as a reader, is good posting. I show up for interesting posts (funny, or smart, or something good, anyway). Good posts make me feel appreciated more than any other thing.
How is that for an unsatisfying answer?
(I appreciate you).
Comments by Nina
I don't need much. A simple hand job would do.
Comments by Rattling the Kettle
What they ^ said. Plus lots and lots of oral sex. And maybe some cash.
Comments by Finn
Comment replies are awesome.
Avitable condoms are awesome too. (if I HAD one)
Comments by Zom
1. Go
2. Fuck
3. Yourself
Comments by Clown
I've actually had to think about this question for a few hours. After this deep pondering over an ice coffee... here is what I have realized:
What actions, elements, aspects, and characteristics of a blog make you feel appreciated as a reader and a commenter?
Transparency, freedom of expression, and leaving the comments open. Generally if I'm reading a blogger, it's because they say or have said things that I find interesting or entertaining. If they suddenly change that, to say a Unicorn Love blog, then chances are I won't be interested in reading them.
As for the comment r