One of the good guys
I'm a man…
Who has always, since being a teen, had more female friends than male friends.
Who might have had, in high school, a bad case of unrequited love, but never acted on it.
Who has always been there for many friends, day or night, to lend an ear.
Who is essentially one of the girls when it comes to gossip or hanging out.
Who slowly gained a greater understanding of how women think than most men.
Who has always gotten to know a side of some friends that their boyfriends or spouses rarely experience.
Who has gotten to know some friends better than their boyfriends or spouses ever would.
Who puts most women up on a pedestal as being worth it, all of the time.
Who has always been willing to sacrifice some dignity or pride for someone else's happiness.
Who can see past the blemishes and chips to the beauty inside.
Who cannot understand how most men think, especially when it comes to how they treat women.
Who gets infuriated with the feeling of being powerless when a friend isn't getting what she needs and deserves to flourish.
Who sometimes really hates men.
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Hmmmm. What's up?
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Hmm so this is the cryptic post you alluded to on twitter.
Your mom clearly did something right while raising you.
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and sadly you are the guy that usually gets either totally ignored or walked all over. You're beautiful though, you do know that right?
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I knew you'd finally talk about your love for me, and here it is!
Seriously though, you're a good egg, Adam.
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So glad we have guys like you on our side. Male friends are the very best.
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Fag.
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Amy is a very lucky woman.
I'll bet your friend is damn glad she has you in her corner. Theoretically speaking and all that.
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Not me. I hate everybody.
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Your the perfect gay best friend, without the gay part. Men could learn a lot from you.
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You're a good guy Adam. I hope my son grows up with a similar mindset.
And less body hair.
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Wow, I didn't think everyone would love my guest post so much! Thank you!
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/teardrop
Do you have a clone?
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Wonderful post. Your friends are very lucky. Very.
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Does this mean I'm not getting a Christmas card?
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Dude.
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comment of the day goes to @Grant.
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So you're an elitest good guy? I can handle that…..
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Aw, now I totally love you even more.
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Bitch.
I'm with you on all those scores, except my female friend count started outstripping my male equivalent post high-school.
I am definitely more a man-hater.
Hold on…………….. we might just both be lesbians? Nice.
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whoa…if i didn't know better, i'd think that you're responding to my post of a few days ago. wee-urd.
but for real? thanks for your post. i only wish that there were many more men out there that thought like you do. if you decide to start having training sessions for men, i'll happily take one of your trainees.
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Every girl needs a friend like you.
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Wish more men were like you…… You're one of the good guys.
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You're my favorite gay blogger.
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"Who can see past the blemishes and chips to the beauty inside."
And *that* is the sentence that got me.
And I think in part, because this post and what you've written, is allowing others to see the Beauty that's inside you. :heartbeat: :heartbeat: :heartbeat:
~ZZ
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Amazing post. The real you. Who knew?
It has totally changed my opinion of you. Not that it was bad. I just never thought you were the kind of person who had no depth. That what I "see" on your blog was all surface stuff.
But, apparently you're one of the good guys. A rarity these days.
Amy is very, very fortunate. She obviously knows that you've got her back and you'll always be there for her.
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That reminded me of a commercial for a drag review.
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Beautiful post. Wish there were more men like you out there.
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Hey, rock on, man. I'm the same way, but then, you thought I was a woman for months, so you know. I'm right there with you.
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This may be the creepiest sentence I ever write but I hope that my boys grow up to be a lot like you. Already they are very kind sensitive caring little guys and I'm hoping they continue to be. Your friends are very lucky to have you!
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You're sexy when your sensitive.
I want you to picture me on my knees right now rubbing warm aruveydic oil all over my chest telling you how sexy and sensitive you are. Oh, and Enya is playing. And we just watched a Colin Firth movie.
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That is an incredibly emo photo of you….and it doesn't include any part of your posterior or scrotum. What gives?
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I know exactly what you mean.
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so yesterday you were all i hate kids and today you are all i love women.
hmmmm.
me thinks that i am gonna shut it.
:martini:
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First of all..I love that photo of you.
Second, I wish I had a friend like you!
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Hey Avitable,
I responded to your ques. on Sheila's post. I'm sorry that you have such a shitty opinion of me. I know it's my fault.
So :AHEM: I'm sorry for offending you. Really and truly. You seem like a great guy and the day I was on a rant well… Long story.
So, anyways I'm sorry again. Have a great day.
-Misi
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LeSombre, oh, nothing. Just a maudlin moment.
Amanda, now only if I could get rid of that Catholic guilt.
jGrrl, luckily, I'm happily married to someone who does not ignore nor walk all over me, but I agree that does happen a lot.
Hilly, oh damn! I thought I hid it well enough. Hilly, I looooove you!
Melissa, I still want to see your boobs, though.
Grant, hahahahahahahahah! You win this post.
SJ, Amy puts up with a lot of shit!
RW, I love you.
Mrs. Kitty, oh, who hasn't sucked a few dicks in the past?
Redneck Mommy, the body hair gives women something to grab onto.
Wayne, hey, did I win the lottery yet?
Ginger, if I did, we'd be too busy fucking each other.
Chrissi, they do have to see me naked, so it evens out.
Dave2, you're getting a Davemas card.
Tracy, dudette.
Stephanie, yeah, he wins for best comment.
Robin, yeah, it's not a conflict or anything, is it?
Sarah, enough to show me your boobs?
SPD, that's it! I'm totally a lesbian!
Stef, they're too bullheaded to listen.
Daisy, oh, I'm not that great. This is about my friend, not about me.
Bubblewench, I guess that "good" is relative.
Muskrat, awww, that tickles me from my head down to my sphincter.
Greeneyezz, oh, there's no beauty inside of me.
Mattie, I occasionally have days where I need to be a bit deeper.
Metalmom, my name is Princess Wonder!
Jules, it's better if we're in the minority.
Thursday's Child, hahah – that is true.
RadioactiveGirl, nobody's lucky to have me – I'm lucky to have them as friends in the first place.
Jozet, rawr, Colin Firth.
Blondefabulous, well, to be fair, I am masturbating in that photo.
NYCWD, oh, I know that you do!
Hello, yeah, kids are obnoxious. Women are awesome. See? It's easy!
Sandi, that's my photo that's used for the cover of Gay Straight Men Quarterly.
Misi, sorry. You've burned any bridges. Please stay the fuck away.
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Yes you are one of the good guys. :heartbeat: Except for that holiday card crap.
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You're such an awesome guy. I hope my daughters grow up to find men like you.
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Or women! Because I'd be totally cool with that. Did you ever watch Eli Stone? Did you know they axed that too? WTF??
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good redemption after yesteday's "I hate kids" post.
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Are you SURE this isn't a repeat post? I could swear it is. Oh. Wait. It's the related post in BULLET FORM!
I find myself torn here. On one hand I can say thank you since I am obviously the beneficiary of most of this "nice guy friend" stuff. And on the other hand, a part of me wants to point out to the Internet all the things that are really annoying about being the beneficiary of said "nice guy friend" stuff.
What's a girl to do?
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AND…
I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU USED MY SHITTY NIGHT TO WRITE A BIG COMMENT POST!
Fucker.
:-P
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Totally Unrelated Aside:
I can't believe people think I'm a bitch.
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Now this is the Adam that I met in Philly. This is the not-as-bad-ass-as-he-looks-on-the-outside. Much more soft on the inside.
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You are totally awesome. You missed that one in your big list there.
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I love me some Adam in all forms. But I love when Squishy Softy Adam comes out to play. Except, ya know, when you make me cry. Not that I teared up when I read this or anything like that. Nope. Not.Me.
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I love that you use the phrase (not necessarily in this particular post), "I'm a girl" to indicate that there are wonderful and amazing facets to your personality. Such a refreshing departure from, "he hits/runs/cries like a girl."
"Adam loves, cares and empathizes…like a girl." :hug:
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Nothing wrong with being a dude with a sensitive side. Most of my friends are women as well. I like it better that way.
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I wouldn't mind being put on a pedestal. It sounds pleasant
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You are just a big ole teddy bear aren't you? Sensitivity is sexy.
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#1. Excellent picture btw.
#2. There is nothing wrong with being a good guy. It's just nice to see a few straight ones left. It leaves hope for the single women.
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long time reader, first time commenter here.
wow. i wish more guys were like this. everyone needs at least one friend like this. keep up the good work.
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You KNOW…I went to the same high school, it can't be that hard to find out who the unrequited love was.
There aren't enough guys like you in the world.
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Maybe it's a phase. I can relate. I'm mostly over it .. but still there are times I cry like a girl.
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It's not easy being a good guy.
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awwww… that was cute
who's the cute fuzzy wuzzy?
hu?
who is it?
*tickles your neck*
who is the big ol teddy bear?
hu?
cutiewuoodyfuzzybunny….
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I heart you.
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See I knew you were a gay just waiting to come out. Now if only you could learn to crave the cock you could take your rightful place. :3some:
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swtich a lot of the "men" to "women" and that'd be me. Unfortunately niceness and all that crap is so much over looked
:)
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Finn, I know – that stuff is sooo needy!
Maria, I didn't watch Eli Stone, but Pushing Daisies will be sorely missed.
Barbie, I love women and hate kids. It's simple!
Britt, this wasn't about you, ya crazy woman. I have other friends, you know.
Shelli, I don't know who that was that you met. Maybe Poppy?
Atomic, no, I'm very much not!
Sheila, as long as you didn't tear up. But did you touch yourself?
Faiqa, I consider "like a girl" to be a compliment in some ways. Of course, I still use the "cry like a girl" phrase, too.
BE Earl, wanna hug?
Maman, it's supposed to happen to everyone!
Kaila, a big ole perverted teddy bear.
Fogspinner, the nice guys are out there, I'm sure.
Jessica, thanks for visiting!
Anissa, her name was Sabrina, and we're still friends.
e.Craig, other times do you cry like a man?
Robin, or green.
Twinkie, now that's going to make me retch!
Giggle Pixie, awww, thanks.
Chris, do I have to crave it? Can't I just appreciate it? From afar?
Christine, you put men on pedestals? We totally don't deserve it.
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OMG. How stupid do you think we are?
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Marry me.
You're allowed one hetero and one homo marriage in your state, right?
:3some:
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Lucky wife Amy and work wife Brit. Oh and I love that pic of you.
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Alrighty then Mr. Nice Guy. So glad you are such a sweet person.
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i'm pretty sure you posted this good guy bologna before, fuckerton -_-
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I really like that photo of you dude!!!
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What you wrote sounds like what I used to think about myself, and probably still do, yet always warned (this is back 10 15 years ago) women against anyone who said that about themselves of course on the premise that men are scum and would say anything to achieve their goals.
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How did I offend a guy who eats ice cream with Hitler?
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Your Amy is as fortunate as me then! My Kylearyn is a doll like you and soo soft & mushy inside (even if he is a smelly scratchy boy) but don't let him know I said that (the mush stuff, he knows about the smelly bits) – he'd throttle me :lmao:
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Britt, well, you are a blonde.
Thedemigod, why yes, we are. You're a bottom, though, right?
Summer, it's my emo pic.
Liquid, this one's different!
Michelle, thanks.
Valerie, I agree with you.
BHJ, well, that whole boner tweet turned me on too much.
JGrrl, Kylearyn – what's the origin of that name?
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I agree with this assessment of yourself. It confuses me when people think otherwise of you.
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in my observation most boys never grow up. Manhood is just a role they pretend to play when women are around. Which is why I generally dislike all-male environments.
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Kylearyn is made up for gaming/net and right now I seriously cannot remember how he came up with it…
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I'm pretty much convinced you and I are cut from the same piece of cloth as many of your attributes were ones I had in high school and college. Still do on many. Strange.
I also never bought into the whole girls have cooties thing that ran rampant in grade school.
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Propensity for self-exposure aside, you and I have a lot in common, sir.
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Poppy, me too!
FWG, I don't consider that type of male bonding to be because they didn't grow up. I think it's just because they don't know how to act without demeaning women in misogynistic ways.
JGrrl, oh, that's his pseudonym. I thought that was his real name.
Kapgar, same here.
SciFi Dad, you have a propensity for self-exposure? Because I know you definitely weren't talking about me!
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Please. The guy who says he hates ugly people can see past the blemishes and chips in people.
Spare me.
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Ha! "Me" must be one of the uglies….
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Me, I mean, Kris, did someone put a stick up your ass?
Sheila, well, you said it, I didn't.
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Poppy said it perfectly;-) And I must thank you again for it.
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xoxo
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:heartbeat:
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