Comments on: Arranged marriages – old-fashioned and outdated?

By: Alli

Alli — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 16:20:05 +0000

I’m 30, married for the second time.

Seeing as how my parents were right about both husband #1 (he’s a creep and would break my heart) and husband #2 (nice guy, seems reliable, doesn’t make enough money to support me) I think that maybe the arranged marriage thing might have something to it! Not saying it’s right or preferable, but I am saying that maybe my parents know a more than I thought they did when I was 18!

By: Stormi Leigh Paulk

Stormi Leigh Paulk — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 21:44:04 +0000

Hey Dude, I totally agree I spent almost 14 years in an unarranged marrige that was hell I can’t imagine spending anytime in one I didnt have any say in, fuck that noise. If you fuck up your life it should be of your own free will and choosing as to what and how you fuck your life.
Stormi

By: resima englina

resima englina — Tue, 18 May 2010 12:17:39 +0000

Thanks for providing the information.

I don’t agree with u as both are good in their own way.Arrange marriages are more successful as your parents are with you.

I’ll bookmark your post.

By: home working

home working — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 00:47:40 +0000

When it’s a question of money, everybody is of the same religion.

By: Captain Steve

Captain Steve — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 16:10:28 +0000

I actually know a girl who’s going back home in January to get married. I guess her family selects the applicants and she gets final say, but she’s not in favor of arranged marriages all the time, though she is really excited about her own.

By: Clayton

Clayton — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 19:29:40 +0000

On this subject, A great fun movie is “Jump Tomorrow”

By: jGrrl

jGrrl — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 17:45:51 +0000

@Faiqa : if a person wants it then its entirely within their rights to do it but I find that in some cases they may have been conditioned to want it, ‘trained’ if you will.

I knew a girl when I was growing up who was trained that it was perfectly ok for her uncles to abuse her and so she was confused when child protection services came to ‘save’ her.

Its not anywhere near the same thing but I use that only as an example of how easy it really is to condition someone from birth that something is good or bad.

I just don’t think its right to make such enormous life decisions for another person when they are the one that will have to live with the full consequences rather than the person who made said decision.

I’m maybe either too old fashioned or perhaps too far ahead of my time, I’m not sure, but I could never take such a huge choice away from my own daughters or son, its not my right and in my personal opinion – it shouldn’t be.

By: Faiqa

Faiqa — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 16:52:56 +0000

@jGrrl: Oh, honey, I don’t find an opposing viewpoints offending!! But, I do thank you for clarifying that statement about culture. I wonder, though, if telling a whole group of people that they can’t define marriage in their own paradigm (whether that is in this nation or outside) isn’t also a taking away *their* basic fundamental human rights? And as long as a person who is of legal age *willingly* submits to an arranged marriage, I don’t understand what right is being taken away from them?

By: jGrrl

jGrrl — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 16:44:38 +0000

@Faiqa : I didn’t mean to offend, I only meant (and perhaps I should have thought a bit longer about my wording) that it isn’t the standard as in ‘common place’ for the majority. In my personal opinion an arranged marriage takes away the basic fundamental rights of human beings and I don’t personally agree with it anywhere but I also don’t believe that other countries have the right to dictate to countries where it is practiced widely and as the norm.

By: Redneck Mommy

Redneck Mommy — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 16:25:24 +0000

I disagree with you. Again.

Shocking.

Let’s armwrestle.

Heh.