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30 Days of Truth Day 8: Who made my life hell?

This is Day 8 of the 30 Days of Truth series. (Day 123456 | 7).

Who has made my life hell?

Some of the more clever souls who have done this 30 Days of Truth series have talked about themselves when answering this question.  The thing is, the only person who can really, truly make your life hell is you.  The ways that you interact with people, react to situations, and impose limits and controls on yourself are the only things that can make your life hell.

If I hadn’t opened my heart to this person or allowed that person to use me for his own benefit, my life wouldn’t have been hellish.  But I also wouldn’t have experienced love or learned the business lessons I did.  No one can make your life better or worse – all they can do is change your situation.  How you react to that change is what makes it a better situation or a worse one.

I have been my worst enemy and my best advocate.  I’ve reacted pessimistically and optimistically to stages in my life, and to say that I’ve made my own life hell and I’ve been my own hero just seems like a cop-out.

So there are people who took actions to block my success and happiness.  They may have succeeded at times, which is my own fault, but they are still responsible for their own selfish actions.  In my earlier years, I dealt with bullies, both my age and adults.  As I grew up, I had sleazy bosses who lied and manipulated me.  And in recent years, I’ve had friends who acted counter to the way I would expect from a friend.  Did they make my life hell?  No, but they certainly made it easier for me to doubt and hate myself.  And really, there’s only one thing to say to them:  I hope you choke on a bag of cocks.

In other Avita-news, today is the birthday of a false curmudgeon.  He’s erudite, lightning-fast, sure-footed, and loves to pretend that he’s one of the meanest bastards on the Internet.  Happy birthday, Bob.

Bob, Adam, and Britt - April 17, 2007

13 thoughts on “30 Days of Truth Day 8: Who made my life hell?”

  1. I’ve understood this lesson for some time now and it actually makes things harder in the beginning. Of course it’s easier to blame someone else! The hard part for me is giving myself any slack, even though I’m aware of it.

    What can I say. I’m a non-stop, hysterical work in progress. Aren’t we all?

    Adam, there is something about you raising yor eyebrow even smidge! Woo!

  2. It’s not easy for most to admit that they, themselves, are the best or worst thing going for them. Most could give a long list of people they feel have made their lives hell.

    Good for you for recoginzing that as individuals, we decide how we will allow other people to treat us.

  3. I think it’s a hard lesson to learn, that people can do really shitty things to you but it’s your choice how to react to it. I can think of people who made me feel bad for a while, but I don’t consider them to have made my life hell. I have no idea what I’m trying to say here except that I agree with you. Ultimately only one person is in charge of your life and that’s you.

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