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To every woman on Valentine’s Day

Adam Avitable on Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine’s Day, women of the Internet.

Each of you is a wonderful, beautiful person. Whether you get smothered in flowers, gifts, chocolates, and tacky yet romantic gestures today, or whether you are single and don’t get a solitary thing, it doesn’t matter.

A commercial holiday is not the time to calculate your value to the world. Your value is measured in the moments between.

Do you grace the people around you with your smile?

Do you have nice words for those who offer you no benefit?

Are you that person who makes everyone laugh or feel at ease?

Do animals flock to you because they can sense that you’ll care for them deeply and unconditionally?

Will you stop and help that old lady who dropped her bag?

Have you ever had someone thank you just for being you?

Are you the problem solver or the trustworthy vault of secrets?

Are you the dance floor shoe-holder, the toilet hair holder, the ex ass kicker?

Your worth is quantified by who you are, not by what you receive today. Alone or in the company of others, you are a beautiful, shining presence, and you must be proud of the impact that you have on the lives of those around you. Don’t let a day influence you positively or negatively when, in the end, you’re still the same amazing human being that you were the day before.

You are not a box of chocolates.  You are not a night home alone with takeout and a movie to keep you company.  You are not roses and hearts. You are a well-rounded, personable, caring individual, and you are responsible for your feelings. Not Hallmark, not men, not anyone or anything.

Today is Valentine’s Day. Today is February 14th. And today is just a day when there’s lots of extra chocolate around, the smell of flowers is everywhere, and you are still that same lovely person that you were in the past and will be in the future.

Happy Valentine’s Day.




9 thoughts on “To every woman on Valentine’s Day”

  1. Sure you wrote this for the ladies, but… Me. Me. Me. Me. Me. Me. Me. Me. Apparently I’m the perfect woman! And an amazing human being too! I feel ever so special today, even though nobody bought me flowers and chocolates. Thanks, Avitable!

  2. Thank you! I feel a lot better now. Beside what I got from my cat (a frozen mouse with interesting bite marks and a remarkably long tail – good choice!) I’d say these words are the most heartwarming gift a girl can imagine for Valentine’s Day. Thanks again.

  3. I got a pack of batteries, and a bottle of Captain Morgan. Last night. On his way home from work. No card, no I love you. In fact I got “The fact that I’ve stayed for 6 years is proof enough I love you”.
    I hate valentine’s day.

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