Category Archives: Serious stuff

Stop SOPA.

Posted on Wednesday, January 18, 2012 by Avitable

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I’m just not feeling it. #Christmas

Posted on Sunday, December 18, 2011 by Avitable

The last real Christmas I had was in 2009. A month prior, I had told Amy that I was unhappy in our marriage and had been going to therapy in secret to figure out what I wanted and needed in … Continue reading →

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In contemplation of getting a pet

Posted on Saturday, December 10, 2011 by Avitable

When I was 13, I had a dog named Smoky. I was conscientious about feeding her, but I rarely brushed her and only walked her early in the morning because it gave me an excuse to look in the window … Continue reading →

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Making sense of the universe

Posted on Friday, October 21, 2011 by Avitable

Today’s a day that I’ve written about twice before. Today is a day that’s very personal for someone who’s very important to anyone who has the pleasure of knowing her. Tanis, even after knowing you for the last three years, … Continue reading →

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The Tin Anniversary

Posted on Thursday, October 13, 2011 by Avitable

Today would have been that day. The tin anniversary. The one that surely would have been punctuated by a weekend trip to Savannah or Atlanta or the Keys. Where I would have spent too much on a pair of diamond earrings … Continue reading →

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Things Left Unsaid

Posted on Monday, October 3, 2011 by Avitable

Sometimes, it’s about the things we can’t say. Whether it’s because we’re not brave enough, or just because the opportunity has passed, these unspoken phrases, positive or negative, supportive or detracting, reminiscent or in hindsight, deserve to be heard. I’m … Continue reading →

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My afternoon with a heroin addict

Posted on Wednesday, September 28, 2011 by Avitable

For reasons far too complicated to explain, I spent part of my afternoon yesterday standing on a sun-beaten, splintered ocean walkway with Paul, a 22-year old heroin addict. The crook of his elbow was an angry pulsing red, still reacting … Continue reading →

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The Avitable Pledge: Will you sign?

Posted on Sunday, September 18, 2011 by Avitable

I’d like each and every one of you to leave a comment signing this, the Avitable Pledge. By doing so, you become an honorary Avitable, whether you’re male, female, or something in between, with child or without, or any type of blogger or writer or person who interacts socially with other human beings. Continue reading →

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Where’s my reply, @OkCupid? (Prelude to a lawsuit)

Posted on Monday, September 5, 2011 by Avitable

Some of you may have seen this tweet from me on August 30th: OkCupid, the self-proclaimed “best dating site on Earth”, is a mostly free dating site that, while completely legitimate for people who are seriously interested in dating, is … Continue reading →

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How to lose friends and negatively influence people: My life for the last two years

Posted on Friday, August 12, 2011 by Avitable

In 1998, I met Amy. In 2001, we got married. In 2009, I had an affair. In 2010, we got divorced. I never thought I would be the type of person who would have an affair. I’ve since learned that … Continue reading →

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